8 Ways to Become More Selfless

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1. Spend less time inside your own mind and aim to develop awareness of the world. Pay attention to what’s going on around you and what you could do to help. Sometimes when we spend too much time thinking about our own problems, we forget that other people are having problems too. We should try to help one another. 

2. Listen when others are really speaking. In classes learning how to counsel, one of the key focus is on active listening. This requires that we pay very close attention to what people are saying or not saying, their body language, paraphrasing what they said, clarifying what they said, emphasizing with the expressed emotions, not interrupting, speaking less than they are, etc. Most people are conditioned to feel the need to speak when helping someone but the real value is in showing that you’ve listened. 

3. Pay attention to the news. Find out what’s going on in your community and what you could do to get involved. It helps us see things on a bigger scale and put our focus more into the big things. 

4. Try to see things from the other person’s perspective. When you begin to see things from other people’s perspective, you become more forgiving and understanding. 

5. Do kind things not for personal gain but because you actually care. Being selfless begins with thinking in terms of the benefits for other people and not yourself. You can achieve this by being more aware of your motives and what you could change instead to be more giving. 

6. Model yourself after someone who is selfless. Do you know someone who seems really selfless? Try to learn from them, their philosophies about life, and what makes them who they are. 

7. Start with something small. If you have to ever make a decision between who gets the bigger piece of the pie, give up the bigger piece. Even though you may not be giving up much, you are already learning to be selfless by thinking for the other person. Sometimes being selfless doesn’t have to involve big things. 

8. Lastly, you have to be selfless towards yourself too. When you are not too hard on yourself, you are also being selfless. 

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25 Places To Travel Around the World

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lifejoy21:

Love this list! Anyone have suggestions not yet on this list yet?

25 Places To Travel Around the World

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Bucket list!
Been to 5 so far
And I will be going to Bangkok in a few months, so almost 6

I want to go to every single place on this list and then some.

I’d say some places in India need to be on there… Ladakh is one of the places I’ve always wanted to visit.

^Good addition to the list! 

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Come lay with me. I wanna talk about nothing with someone that means something.

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Just look at life with more playful eyes. Don’t be serious. Seriousness becomes like a blindness. Don’t pretend to be a thinker, a philosopher. Just simply be a human being. The whole world is showering its joy on you in so many ways, but if you are too serious, you cannot open your heart.
— Osho

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24 Ways to Hint To Someone You Like Them

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Whether you’re a guy or you’re a girl and you’re trying to get the other person to notice you, here are 24 ways you’ll never run out of to try! 

24 Ways to Hint To Someone You Like Them

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One is a great deal less anxious if one feels perfectly free to be anxious, and the same may be said of guilt.
—  Alan Wilson Watts

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Today I may be nothing, but one day I will be something great.

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How To Fight Fair

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Fighting is a part of all kinds of relationships. Fighting can actually prove to be healthy and strengthen the relationship, if done right. Here are some ways on how you can fight fair.

Our favorite tip is number 5! 

How To Fight Fair

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Death is an inevitable thing. Life is a gift that will expire, so spend yours wisely.
— Nana W

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I learned not to trust people; I learned not to believe what they say but to watch what they do; I learned to suspect that anyone and everyone is capable of ‘living a lie’. I came to believe that other people - even when you think you know them well - are ultimately unknowable.
— Lynn Barber

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Tips on How to Forgive and Moving On

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8 Ways To Forgive

"I eventually came to understand that in harboring the anger, the bitterness and resentment towards those that had hurt me, I was giving the reins of control over to them. Forgiving was not about accepting their words and deeds. Forgiving was about letting go and moving on with my life. In doing so, I had finally set myself free.” 
― Isabel LopezIsabel’s Hand-Me-Down Dreams

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24 Tips to Move On

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I have noticed that when all the lights are on, people tend to talk about what they are doing – their outer lives. Sitting round in candlelight or firelight, people start to talk about how they are feeling – their inner lives. They speak subjectively, they argue less, there are longer pauses. To sit alone without any electric light is curiously creative. I have my best ideas at dawn or at nightfall, but not if I switch on the lights – then I start thinking about projects, deadlines, demands, and the shadows and shapes of the house become objects, not suggestions, things that need to done, not a background to thought.
— Jeanette Winterson

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