1. Spend less time inside your own mind and aim to develop awareness of the world. Pay attention to what’s going on around you and what you could do to help. Sometimes when we spend too much time thinking about our own problems, we forget that other people are having problems too. We should try to help one another.
2. Listen when others are really speaking. In classes learning how to counsel, one of the key focus is on active listening. This requires that we pay very close attention to what people are saying or not saying, their body language, paraphrasing what they said, clarifying what they said, emphasizing with the expressed emotions, not interrupting, speaking less than they are, etc. Most people are conditioned to feel the need to speak when helping someone but the real value is in showing that you’ve listened.
3. Pay attention to the news. Find out what’s going on in your community and what you could do to get involved. It helps us see things on a bigger scale and put our focus more into the big things.
4. Try to see things from the other person’s perspective. When you begin to see things from other people’s perspective, you become more forgiving and understanding.
5. Do kind things not for personal gain but because you actually care. Being selfless begins with thinking in terms of the benefits for other people and not yourself. You can achieve this by being more aware of your motives and what you could change instead to be more giving.
6. Model yourself after someone who is selfless. Do you know someone who seems really selfless? Try to learn from them, their philosophies about life, and what makes them who they are.
7. Start with something small. If you have to ever make a decision between who gets the bigger piece of the pie, give up the bigger piece. Even though you may not be giving up much, you are already learning to be selfless by thinking for the other person. Sometimes being selfless doesn’t have to involve big things.
8. Lastly, you have to be selfless towards yourself too. When you are not too hard on yourself, you are also being selfless.